Seriously?

September 24, 2013

I haven’t been writing. I have’t been reading. I haven’t been grocery shopping. I haven’t been.

It started in June or July of 2012. I continued to drink heavily and plan my death. A doctor found out about the plan and had me admitted to the mental ward at St. Lawrence. I was there for 3 or 5 days and what I was told by the psychiatrist in no uncertain terms was “well, you need to quit drinking.”

No shit.

Obviously the doctor (no one actually) had read this blog. I don’t know if it is even visible anywhere.

So, although I was hospitalized against my will – I eventually checked myself in and actually had a pretty good time with my fellow crazies. Before they let me leave though – the doctor strongly suggested/advised/demanded I enter an outpatient program for substance abuse. Okay, fine… I will do it.

The IOP is run by an incredible man – I liked going to group 3 nights a week for hours and hours. I liked that he breathalyzed me. I like (not really this part as much) that he required me to go to AA (and prove it) three times a week and find a female sponsor within 10 days and call her everyday.

I was into it. I was into recovery. I was feeling good and was sober for three months. I got my three month coin from the hot guy Pete and although he didn’t know my name (I only say it at every meeting… “Hi, my name is Tess and I am an alcoholic” ) I still felt good.

Until I didn’t. Around my 40th birthday, I started drinking again. Something snapped one day and I knew – completely knew- that I was going to buy wine on the way home. I had tunnel vision. I don’t think anything would have stopped me.

From there the drinking continued. It wasn’t long before I was back drinking daily – all day if I could.

I treated the nice guy I was seeing at the time like shit and he eventually gave up on me.

From November – February I was drunk. I am not sure I had one day of sobriety during that time.

It was around the beginning of February that my boss suddenly came into my office and said (with her head and nose up high) – “I smell wine” I immediately denied it and she wasn’t buying it – but she left my office.

This cat and mouse game went on for a couple of weeks – then, one day she came into my office and sat down closely across from me and took my hands in hers and said “I don’t think you can get sober again without going back into the hospital.”  I was so relieved. I immediately got on the phone with the Brighton Recovery Center – this was a Thursday. They said they would have a bed for me on Sunday.

So, I did what any experienced alcoholic would do and drank myself into a blackout that lasted all weekend. My boss picked me up that Sunday. We dined at Cracker Barrel – she told me to get whatever I wanted – diet coke and coffee and water and fried okra and catfish.

We stopped at Marshall’s on the way and she bought a curling iron.

Once we arrived at Brighton she stayed with me for a long time. The intake process took about 4 hours (maybe more) The waiting room was filled with people that would eventually become my friends – and more.

I am not going to go into the Brighton experience on this post. It stands alone and will take a lot of time and remembering. Stay tuned.

I stayed at Brighton for two weeks. I left on February 24 – I arrived there on February 11. I insisted they spring me so I could get home in time to watch The Oscars.

I picked up Griffin for a few hours when I got home. His dad wanted him back fairly quickly because it was a school night. I had assumed he would watch The Oscars with me- but his dad requested he go back to their house for the night.

So, there I was standing in my living room – alone – The Red Carpet began – and I left. I went to the party store up the road and bought wine.

When, I left Brighton no one would have convinced me that I would drink ever again – and then just like a bolt of lightening – I was back at it.

I don’t remember March or April. I became very sloppy with hiding my drinking and ended up getting caught drunk at work……. more than once. My job had required I see an  EAP counselor – just as a resource to help me. I wasn’t in any trouble…. yet.

By the end of May the word “sloppy” doesn’t come close to my drinking. On Wednesday, May 29 I was found by EMT’s and police naked on the floor wedged between my bed and the wall.

I had not called into work. I had not answered my phone or my door. My boss called my parents and they called the police. They believed I was dead. Unfortunately, I wasn’t.  I was taken against my will to the hospital. I had to have a “safety sitter” with me at all times – even to use the bathroom because they believed I planned to hurt myself.

I don’t know what would have given them that idea. I had pills, I was heavily intoxicated and – oh yeah – I was covered in lacerations. I have been a “cutter” off and on for years. I picked it up again when I was looking in the cupboard and happened upon an exacto knife. It was like finding a million dollars. I also began beating the shit out of myself again – so, there were bruises all over my body too.

While in the ER – they wouldn’t give me anything to calm me down – as I sobered up the anxiety, sweating and nausea was unbearable. I did make the most of it by lively chatting with my safety sitters – they were a great group of young people (except one)

Late that night I was transferred to Community Mental Health to be evaluated for further care. I was told there would be drugs for anxiety there – that was a lie.

I was in the middle of the most intense manic episode I have experienced and they put me in a small, cold room with nothing by magazines from the early ’90’s.  My head was going to fly off, I was going to fly (like NEO) through the roof – or, I was going to pace a short, bug infested old hallway for 8 hours. So, I paced and paced.  I didn’t know when the last time I slept or ate was. I was flying high and I have never been more uncomfortable – from the inside out.

Thankfully, the intake worker was awesome. She eventually let me sit in a chair outside of her office (I was not allowed in – CMH policy) and she talked to me – and listened to me.

CMH is a holding tank. I was sent there to be evaluated to determine if I needed to be admitted. Eventually, a psychologist interviewed me – as well as another woman – I don’t remember her role. This was happening in the middle of the night.

I hadn’t talked to anyone – not my parents even. It didn’t take long for the staff to decide they couldn’t let me go. So, they began looking for a mental facility that would take me.  St. Lawrence in Lansing was full. So, I was headed out-of-town. The place I really didn’t want to go had a bed for me. I had to leave CMH once a bed was found. They weren’t going to cater to my psycho beliefs about where I should go.

I asked my new BFF what would happen if I left the building (even though I had no shoes) and she promptly said “you’ll be arrested.”

At some point in the early morning I called my parents to tell them I was being transferred to Carson City. They weren’t happy with me – at all.

it wasn’t long before two (hot and young) EMT’s showed up to take me by ambulance from Lansing to Carson City. I had a good time laying on a board in the back of the ambulance – restrained talking to the super cute EMT. He was very cool (and very taken 🙂

When I arrived at Carson City – the check-in process was mind numbing. They did not have it together to receive me – and I immediately wanted out. As time went on though – it got better. However, when my parents got there to bring me some things when I hugged my mom I whispered in her ear “GET ME THE FUCK OUT OF HERE.”

No dice.

I will write about my time in Carson City in a separate post.

While there – my boss came to visit me. She always brings me the best magazines. She also brought a gift from a friend at work that had made me prayer moccasins.  Google it if you care what those are – but I was overwhelmed by the gift.

My boss delivered the message very clearly to me – now is the time to go to a long-term substance abuse facility. I became very upset and begged her to agree that I could go home and do the outpatient thing again. She would not agree. I had a crying fit in my room and the nurse came in to check on me. I asked her to talk to me for a bit. She sat on the edge of my bed and tried to get me to accept I needed longer-term care. She asked me to write a journal entry about why I drink. I have that somewhere .

The discharge nurse, Nancy did some homework for me and she found three places to choose from.

My boss used her mad-Googling skills and brought me information on each one.

I chose a place called Our Hope in Grand Rapids. It was a 12-bed residential facility for women. After awhile I thought this sounded like an okay idea.

Nancy did some calling and after waiting a day or so for the answer – I found out I could go to Our Hope the following day. I felt happy.

My parents and I coordinated how I would get there. We would have to stop at Meijer because I was going to be gone for at least 30 days. When I was hauled off by the EMT’s all I had was socks, jeans, a bra and one t-shirt (My Michigangster t)

I am not ready to write about Our Hope yet – but when I am, the entry will be titled “Deb’s diapers and other rehab woes”

I stayed at Our Hope for exactly 30 days. They wanted me to stay longer. I was having none of that – I wanted out of there. I started smoking (again) while I was there and I was going to run out of cigarettes soon – so, I knew it was time to go.

Plus, in true Tess fashion – I met a guy in the mental ward at Carson City that I wanted to get home to. He had also attempted suicide and was a severe alcoholic. Perfect.

My parents picked me up on July 3 (against medical advise)

I got home – my place looked weird. My mom had cleaned and got me groceries and washed my bedding.

All I wanted when they were in my place was for them to get the hell out – so I could smoke and call John.

John was staying at the  VOA and he had a curfew – this made him the perfect match for me because that meant I would be alone within hours of getting home.

The next day I agreed to golf in a 4th of July outing with my parents. I made it to the course on time and we had a good time. When we were done and eating dinner in the clubhouse – I got a call from Griffin’s dad. He told me that I was gone for over 40 days (no shit) and he hadn’t heard from me. I had talked to Griffin – but not him. He let me know that it is their preference that Griffin no longer spend the night with me. He could come over for a few hours – but then I would have to take him to their house. I agreed – saying if that is what he thought was best for Griffin then I would not argue.

I saw Griffin for a few hours on Friday, July 5. I have no memory of what happened next. Somehow it became Saturday, July 6 – I had made plans to pick John up for breakfast and never showed. I have a memory of my mom being at my screen door. The next memory I have is being back in the ER. I had fallen and hit my head on the screen door track. My mom couldn’t pick me up and I wouldn’t wake up – she had to call the ambulance.

My boss came to see me in the ER – her first words were “I’m not mad” – when I sobered up they were checking me out of the hospital. I had no way to get anywhere. My mom had left.

I had to call my parents and ask them to come get me.

They were disgusted with me. My mom had just spent thousands of dollars for me to stay in rehab for 30 days – and I didn’t make it a few hours before drinking again. I don’t really know what to say about that.  I was stunned too.

They made me go to church with them that Sunday morning – I had to wear my nieces flip flops, my jeans and Batman t-shirt. My dad yelled at me to COMB MY HAIR! but no matter how hard ti tried to try – I looked like absolute shit.

the next day – Monday – I had concert tickets in Ann Arbor to see David Byrne (or husband #3 as I like to call him) – we made it to the show – the show was great – Ann Arbor was great and we returned home without incident.

Somewhere in here I saw John again and he kissed me.

I had my meeting with Human Resources at work on Wednesday – July 10. Unbelievably, I still had a job – but I had to sign a contract stating I had no more chances. Next incident I will be gone. They said I could return to work the following Monday. What the fuck would I do until Monday? – I knew what I would do. So, I drove to St. Lawrence Substance Abuse and called from the car asking if I could be admitted for detox.

I had met with a therapist the day before my meeting with HR. I was honest with him about my drinking and after he did some checking – he suggested I come in for a bit. I told him I would be fine.

But after the meeting at work – I knew I wouldn’t be fine. I called from the parking lot around noon. They told me to come back at 4:30. From there I went to the Better Health Food Store and bought two bottles of wine. I figured that would get me to 4:30.

I went home and packed my own bag this time. This time it was my decision to get more help.

I was intoxicated when I got there – so, I was required to stay in my room and not be around the other patients. I immediately began going stir crazy. I spent Wednesday to Saturday there and then came home.

Thursday night my mother came for “Family Night” with the IOP therapist. He is such a good speaker and so smart about addiction – I think my mom learned a lot. I had been to several Family Nights over the past summer and although I had heard the lectures before, I continued to learn. And, my thinking was different this time. I knew how severe my addiction was. Hell, I was back there again.

When I got out on Saturday – I don’t know what I did – but I did not drink.

That Sunday, I went shopping to Target for Super Hero toys and to Ulta for makeup. When I returned home on Sunday I was very anxious and uncomfortable. I called my friend Jane and then my friend Carol. I talked and talked about what the past 50 some days had been like.

I made it through the night and returned to work on Monday.

Everyone was so nice and happy to see me. IOP began that night and I was happy to be back in Dave’s group.

As I said before – Dave requires three AA meetings a week and the name and phone number of your sponsor.

My mom went to every family night. We would meet at El Azteco for dinner and then go. It was a nice time spent together.

My dad even came to one. He commented to Dave that he just doesn’t understand how or why someone would want to live with addiction. David’s response was that he has been at this for 20 some years, and he still can’t explain it to non-addicts. Only addicts truly understand the cycle of addiction and it will never make sense to a sober person.

I get confused because I grew up believing my father was an addict. In Brighton my parents brought Griffin to a family session with my therapist. I had talked to her about my dad being an alcoholic. I about fell out off my chair when my dad told her that he is not an alcoholic. He just used to drink. Whatever. If that is what he believes – it is his life.

Part of my agreement with work was that I went back to see the EAP therapist. She does not know addiction. And we did not click. I have been in a lot of therapy and I know who is good (for me) and who isn’t. She was not at all helpful – she continued to tell me how bad I “fucked up” and called me names at times. Once, when I told her about a date I went on and after she suggested I call HIM for another date and I replied I wasn’t going to call him – she called me a “chicken shit” More than once.

I had a date with this interesting professor – but I was so nervous before the date that I threw it.

I will need to write about what has gone on since I graduated from IOP – but not yet.

I cannot believe the things I have. The risks I have taken are unbelievable. Who would do that? How could I do that? How did we end here over and over again? What was it going to take? The threat of losing my job, my son, everything I have isn’t enough – it makes no sense.

Where I am at right now is determined. I will remain sober for me. The lying and not following through has become too much for me to bear.

I have to do this my way – it is personal. Others, even though I know they care, cannot influence my sobriety. Rules and threats will not keep me sober. Doing what I need will. I am stronger than ever now. Who knew there could be so many bottoms. I know I could go much lower – but I will no. I am done.

It is over. I have no idea how long it is going to take to earn trust of those around me. Why would they trust me? I am a liar. I fell in love with an alcoholic this year – and I know how it feels to simply not be able to reach someone – someone who says they love you.

so maybe being pissed is what has made me finally turn the corner. – Fine. I can be grateful later – whatever works and gets me there for now.

You want to watch me like a hawk, then watch this. I am going to prove them wrong.

Unbearable

April 29, 2013

This is unbearable. Nine more minutes.

The clock is not moving. I have to get over this. Mom, Dad, Lorie, Matt, Mark, Griffin,

I do not believe this is a disease. I believe I am weak.

I have to get over this. I am the only one blaming me. Blame, guilt, regret, all of those things will keep me drinking and numb.

Everyday seems more desperate than the one before.

Just don’t. Just don’t. Just don’t.

Good-bye Pink Cloud

September 22, 2012

When I was in IOP and also in AA people referred to the “Pink Cloud.” This is the period of time in early in recovery when everything is great. You feel wonderful, confident – and everything seems to be going your way.
The first month of sobriety I felt very healthy, positive and strong. And then, that changed. I started to become angry and stressed out. I am negative. I can’t even recall the feelings I had two months ago – it is as if they evaporated.

Yet, I have heard or learned a lot of good things about how to get through the rough days. Applying those words of wisdom though is tough. I choose how I feel. A problem without a solution isn’t a problem at all.

I learned about setting boundaries. I was warned about bailing out someone’s canoe. It was stated over and over to let go of the things I cannot control.

So, what I have been doing is what I can control. I go to work. Work is hard. I control very little there. Many people work with me and they are wonderful – however, everyone has skin in the game. I need to learn to chill out – or I will have a heart attack.

After work now I prefer to go home and be by myself. It is quiet at home. I can decide what I do. I may not have control from 8-5 – but I am making sure I control 5:30 – bedtime. and the weekends too.

On Thursday I golfed in an outing. I did not drink. I didn’t do anything like I did last year. I did treat myself with dignity and self respect and I feel good about that. No negative consequences will come from that day.

I am though dealing with a very bad consequence from my accident in April. I have to get car insurance and because of my careless driving ticket  the rate will be very high. I haven’t had the guts to run the numbers yet – but I really don’t know if I will be able to make bills. And it is so bad that it isn’t even a matter  of canceling Netflix and Hulu – I will do that – but this is a big fucking number. I already quit eating out. I quit drinking. I will quit buying shit I don’t need (I do need to do that, the party is seriously over) – but I don’t see what I can cut out that will save enough money to cover the cost of insurance. This is a problem without a solution. Maybe I have to get a second job. I have done that before and I remember I took home very little money. I don’t know. I will pray. Another saying in AA is that you have to give it away to keep it. We’ll see.
I am responsible for what I did. I really have never been one to blame someone else for my actions.

I am worried about how much help I will be to Griffin. He is 13. He will be able to enter drivers ed. soon. Will I be able to help him get a car.

If he doesn’t choose to go to LCC – will I be able to help him get into college? Is my credit so screwed that I will hurt rather than help? Thank God for Matt and Michelle.

I am feeling the pinch from changes in State of Michigan stuff. Stuff I don’t ever understand. Benefits and retirement and important stuff like that. My take home pay is less. I have to do something. I can’t remain still while getting screwed.

I have been more quiet lately because for me to share my feelings is to say things that go against all of the principles I am working so hard to apply. When I speak I want it to be true, unique and interesting. I am so sick of Facebook. People posting every single thought there. I find myself being tempted to do the same. I am stopping myself. I need to find some other way to post a feeling. One kid at AA said when you have any emotion treat it like a railroad crossing and stop – do nothing and wait for the train to pass.

I need to remember to slow down and not speak so fast. Not react so fast. Breathe. Pray.

A meditation book arrived yesterday – now I need to read it.

Just like others I thought drinking was my only problem. Drinking was my unhealthy coping mechanism to all of my problems. So many things bug me. So many things that I cannot control. Few things are any of my business. I need to acknowledge that and let those things go. Drinking was not the solution. Being a high-strung asshole is not the solution. I will figure this out. It is going to take patience, practice, determination and strength. God willing.

Amen.

What is your priority? Is it your job? Your kids? Money? Exercise?

Mine was running – not running/running, but fleeing reality, but I had a good excuse. I wasn’t right in my head. It was as if I had no choice. It was the only way to quiet and eventually numb my mind from the electricity and rushing thoughts I could not manage.

I was barely getting by. The trunk was full of clothes to go to Goodwill or the cleaners. My backpack was stuffed with mail. My inbox was full of bill notifications. My voicemail was full of calls from friends wanting to talk to me. I was behind in TV shows I truly wanted to watch. “Did you catch last night’s Parks and Rec?” Nope, I was passed out. My list-of-of-things to do grew without ever crossing anything off.

I was missing things – and people were missing me.

Then, out of the blue, I found a job I wanted, an incredible job. It was a chance to get out of the dust and into the light. But I couldn’t move forward in fog.

I did what I swore I would never do again. I asked for help. I called my long lost doctor. Went on medication, Called two other kinds of doctors and developed a plan. My eyes became clear. My focus shifted to me and my future. The past is the past and guilt and blame are in the rear view.

It is not going to be easy, but it is worth it.

When I see something that is bothering me, I will deal with it instead of walking away. I am going to re-balance this life. Leave work at work. Be with Griffin when I am with Griffin. Bowl when I am bowling and trust myself.

It took awhile, but I am here. Thank you for waiting.

Let’s try this again

October 11, 2011

I am doing it this time. I am going to become happy, healthy, safe and successful.

I am tired of complaining about what is wrong. I am going to go for what is right.

I want to take a minute and identify what got me here. It’s important because it is all coming together. I have never had this much assistance before and it is unbelievable.

One colleague  started in on helping me clean and organize my office. Another started asking me to help with advice on men and we began hanging out socially. She also started complimenting me on my appearance – and that felt great.

One of the major changes was my boss EJ started bringing in the most beautiful and seemingly magical clothes. Clothes I would never be able to afford. I had gained some weight and really needed nice clothes for the talk show.

Once I started wearing these clothes, I wanted to be seen in them. I went out more and socialized.

Also, the Tigers and Lions started winning. Things were turning around.

I became more active on Facebook and Twitter. I quit deleting my posts thinking they were stupid. My confidence was up.

Then, an incredible thing happened. A friend sent me a link to a job that paid double what I make here. And it is a job I can do. I meet the minimum qualifications. I can do this job and I want this job. Getting this job will save my life. It will put me on the map. I will be able to support myself and G. Dear J offered to help me with my application material. She is the most incredible thing to come into my realm.

My current job is crazy. I do not feel my talents are noticed by leadership. I love my co-workers, but they can’t pay me in cash, they pay me in emotional support.

I called the doctor got in and got on some good-sounding medication.

My boss told me I should try cognitive behavioral therapy. I saw my friend on Saturday and she mentioned that she sees someone that does that (before I even brought it up) and she gave me her car. I called and have an appt. next week.

I have one more place to call. I want to be really closely evaluated about what is going on.

Things are all coming together and I think something really great is going to happen. I am setting it up so I can’t walk away or fail.

There are no coincidences.

Oh, and then I joined the LCC Bowling league and became obsessed with becoming a fantastic bowler. I bought a ball and shoes and my team is happy and ready to roll!

I think something is wrong

October 2, 2011

I feel like my head is going to fly off. I am not clear. I love Somecards… and their sense of humor is matches mine
“I would do anything to lose 10lbs except eat right and exercise”

I know I am fucked up mixing stuff I shouldn’t and running like Casey Anthony (without the dead girl in the trunk) but I can’t seem to slow it down enough to fix it. I am not Kid Rock. I need to take Cocky out of the the cd player and play more Jewel and Sinead.

Why did I start ordering chicken tenders for every meal? I can’t fucking think? I have become a 21 year old boy.

A reality check is coming. It will not be pretty.

The thing that is surprising me though is that as I describe my mid-life crisis to my closest friends they do not show concern, they show enthusiasm. “You go get it girl!” They want me to be happy. They want me and my personality. My personality and socializing is killing me. Someone is going to get hurt.

Tonight I walked the line. No drinking. No drugs. I drove you know who to you know where out of town to hear a show. I was in charge and protective. I did it. I’ve still got it. I can resist the bad and embrace the good and show a minor the fun of a road trip.

But for how long? My son is so smart, funny, original, caring – I cannot even handle it. I sit here typing unable to comprehend what he is.

I have to stay here for him, but I want to get out of here. I always have. I will not do that to him. There has to be an answer. G and I are an awesome team. Although I may not be willing to eat right and exercise to lose 10lbs, I think I would do anything for him.

Maybe getting my act together doesn’t have to mean making dinner and doing laundry and being sweet. Maybe it just has to mean being me and supporting my son and keeping me afloat in a way where he doesn’t have to know how mother fucking incredibly hard this is.

I am writing the book for parents that find out their child has been sexually abused. They need to know they need to call in motherfucking FEMA for support. If you don’t get help for your child immediately, …. Your child turns out like me. And we don’t need anymore of me’s around.

It starts now

July 25, 2011

I dumped it, the whole box of wine. Yesterday I made the decision to stop drinking *(again.) The amount I drink has become unmanageable. I can no longer sign a guestbook at a funeral due to the extreme shaking in my hands. My next drink is all I think about no matter where I am.

A co-worker recently passed away from liver disease. People began talking about how he had been an alcoholic for years. He was only 60 years old.

I haven’t been feeling well either. I was on an anti-seizure medicine for migraines. One of the side effects of that drug is weight loss. The drug also made my thinking foggy. I quit it cold turkey and my weight has increased significantly.

And there is the issue of making poor decisions when I drink. I think “oh, a huge bowl of crackers is fine. and “It’s okay to post that rant on Facebook.” Every morning I investigate what I did the night before. I drink everyday. I drink a lot of white wine – every day. No one knows how much, and no one seems to care, which leads me to the pickle quitting drinking will put me in.

I am very unhappy at home. I am married to someone I know longer love or even like. He is an angry and selfish person. We married too soon – I do a lot of things too soon. I make permanent rash decisions often and am left with no one to blame but myself and no one to deal with the consequences but me.

Sobering up and staying sober this time will likely end this marriage. He drinks quite a bit, not as much as me, but he drinks everyday as well. He calls beer “brewskie’s.” He has a pet name for everything (*except me.)

We no longer have sex, which I am thankful for. He no longer holds the door open for me. Conversations are always strained. I do not want to look at him, let alone talk to him. Which begs the question “Why are we still together?”

In 2007 we bought a house for $119,000. The house is currently worther $40,000. I struggle financially. I have more expenses than income. That is mostly my doing as I enjoy eating out and taking my son to the movies and buying him nice things. My son is the other issue. I divorced his dad when he was two years old. We were often alone in the years prior to meeting my current husband. My son instantly fell in love with him. They bonded over video games, Star Wars and music. My son knows I am not happy and he has begged me to try harder and stick together. I am not sure I can handle breaking his heart, but I have to be happy as well. Plus, I don’t particularly care for how my husband treats my son. He has a short fuse and that pisses me off. When I try to talk to him about it he plays victim that he is his “fourth parent.” I swear this man is such a baby and I am done.

Not only am I mentally and physically addicted to alcohol but I use it to check out of situations I cannot handle (like a Tuesday night.)

I have realized though that I have to take care of myself. I will not blame my drinking on anything or anyone else other than my genetic and chemical circumstance. I was raised with alcoholics. Drinking was a part of everything. I began drinking at a very young age and romanticize the day when it is just me alone with a bottle, free to drink all day all night and love every minute of it.

However, it turns out there is nothing romantic about drinking a glass of wine. It turns into eight glasses of wine. I wake up not knowing what the hell happened the night before. I can’t trust myself and am now worried that the years of drinking have caused great physical harm. I don’t want to wake up yellow someday with jaundice. I don’t want to lose vision. I don’t want to have a fatty liver and be bloated. I want to be a lean and mean person completely in the game working hard at making this a better place for me, my son and the people I care about.

I am going to try to do this on my own, but today that failed. I did pour a drink. I have been on aggressive vitamin therapy and did not drink at all yesterday. After a couple of sips of the wine, I felt terrible and decided that it starts now. I dumped the box of wine, and the glass. I am going to surrender to the power that wine has over me and ask for help. I fully understand my life will change in sobriety, but I need it to change. I used to think about dying everyday. Drinking was a kind of chronic suicide. After watching people close to me deal with the loss of someone they loved, I realized I do not want to die, I just want things to get better.

I want to enjoy where I live and who I spend time with. Ah. Saying good-bye to an old friend is hard, but I have to look after me. It’s time and thankfully, it is not too late.